Mum’s tend to be judged no matter what they chose to do as a parent. Even if it isn’t outright judgement there is comparisons, questions and snarky comments to contend with.
I am still learning that I need not defend my choices and that I have the most important part down pact – love.
Still, it hurts when someone says something negative about how I have chose to raise my baby boy.
Today, for instance, I had a mother ask why I often nurse Cameron to sleep or wear him in a sling where he will sometimes sleep (and co-sleeping – a whole other ‘issue’) where she ranted that he will be reliant on me for sleep when he’s much too old and my favourite “you’ll learn”.
I just said “yep, he’ll be 18 and need me to breastfeed him to sleep and still share our bed” and moved on.
Every mother (keeping in mind that having a child doesn’t necessarily make you a mother) wants what is best for their child.
You see, the thing is, is that you can find research for or against whatever you wish. I chose to listen to the ‘for’ for co-sleeping, breastfeeding, baby-wearing, cloth nappies, etc and do what I find comes relatively naturally. What it really comes down to is what works for you.