Anxiety is a stealthy bugger. The slightest bit of doubt is like a portal that anxiety quickly sees and swims into without me even knowing. I can go from a confident Mum, wife and woman to someone who is questioning all of my choices and can convince myself that I’m wrong.
There is no right or wrong way to parent (uhh… within reason, you get what I’m saying!) but there can be a right/wrong way for YOU and YOUR baby you know? & lately I’ve been struggling with this.
I remember when Cameron used to barely eat and feeding time (solids only, he’s always been a boobah-monster) was a forceful event. I used to look on with envy as other Mum’s fed their babies without a fuss. But it sorted itself out and with time and love Cam is now eating really well.
Lately I’ve found myself looking at other parenting techniques and worrying that I’m making the wrong choices. Particularly with breastfeeding and co-sleeping.
But the truth is, is that I love breastfeeding… it’s been exhausting lately with Cameron teething and he was deciding he needed more feeds but ultimately it works for us. So does co-sleeping.
I realised that I’m feeling this way because of social/cultural reasons and that I need to get over it. So what, I still baby wear, breastfeed and co-sleep and my bub is over 1. I need to get over the fact that I’m a minority as a parent.
There’s no ‘better’ or ‘worse’ but simply different.
& it’s all OK.
So anyone who asks me when I will wean him or move him into his own room and what not… I’m going to say: when it is right for us.
I am easily sensitive and find it hard to say what I really feel. But I will from now on.
I won’t explain why I parent the way I do. Not because I’m worried about judgement or people feeling judged; but because I don’t feel the need to defend myself. People can research things themselves and chose how they feel and what works or worked for them. No judgement here.
Remember, as a Mum – you know best.